Happy New Year!
May this year be for each a season of “Goodwill” to ALL people at ALL places(Luke 2:14). I champion to deliberately find every excuse to extend the generosity, profoundly over-extending goodwill to ALL
As the African Philosophy of Ubuntu teaches us, “I am what I am because of who we all are.” or “I am a person through other persons”. “A single straw of a broom can be broken easily, but the straws together are not easily broken.”
This truly is the essence of being and becoming; you can’t exist as a human being in isolation; you can’t be human all by yourself, you belong. We are all connected! What you do affects the whole world. When you do well, it spreads out; it is for the whole of humanity. You diminish when others are diminished, when others are humiliated; you famish when others are famished, when others are tortured and oppressed. This is the year, this is the moment.
The government of fear is over! I am resolved, aggressively, provocatively and deliberately living to enable the community around to improve and become it’s uttermost. When we struggle to feed only ourselves, everyone goes hungry. But when we focus on our neighbour’s hunger, we discover there are ways to feed everyone. The world is my Parish.
No one walks alone into higher realms. As expressed in the title of the acclaimed, and Number one hit song released in January, 1970, with gospel overtones, and recorded by Paul Simon and Art Garfunkel, unity is our only “Bridge over Trouble Water.” Without a bridge that leads to unity with others, who will support us through our perilous times, we will fall and sink, hopelessly, into the troubled water.
With unfeigned love, always, still becoming,
++ Daniel Zopoula
- Desiring to be at peace with people is a good thing
- Use conflict as an opportunity to serve others
- Encourage good practice by personal example
- Deal only with issues that are too important to overlook
- Overlook minor offenses
- Guard your attitude from negative thinking
Helpful conflict management thinking
- “It is my intention to provoke your thinking.”
- “It is not my intention to offend you.”
- “People decide to be offended.”
- “Please decide not to be offended.”
- People are responsible to be gentle
- People are responsible to be forthright
- People are responsible to challenge ideas
- People are responsible to detach their self worth from their ideas.
From the “Critical Confrontation” Principles
- Start with Heart. The clearer you are on goals, the less you’re controlled by fears.
- Learn to Look. What you see is what you get.
- Make it Safe. Defensiveness is not a sign of too much candor, but too little safety.
- Master my Stories. To take control of your emotions, take control of your stories.
- STATE my Path. How to be persuasive without being abrasive or evasive. Work to say things in the most acceptable way possible.
- Explore others’ Path. When you learn to do this you have a responsibility to increase the pool of shared meaning…
- Move to Action. How you end a crucial conversation is as important as how you begin it. At the beginning you need safety, at the end closure. Tricky parts are beginning and end.
Why does it help to stop and examine your motives?
- Because the motive you can’t see controls you.
- Because you aren’t that good an actor.
- Because if you can see it you can change it.
- Because questions provoke the brain.
Took time to muse about Professor Philip Zimbardo. Here he is speaking about how our individual perspectives of time affect our work, health and well-being. Time influences who we are as a person, how we view relationships and how we act in the world. A very interesting commentary on our civilization.
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